Communities
We are all involved in many communities. Some we may not even realize until it’s brought to our attention because we may not think of a certain characteristic as being included into its own community, for example fathers. I understand that I am a part of several different communities, and that in each community I behave (and sometimes it is expected of me) a certain way.
My first and main community is my family. When I am at home, I am a daughter and big sister. I know that I need to be respectful to my parents so that my little sister will follow my example. And as the oldest child I have certain responsibilities within our house, even though they may be minor. Also, my family sees me a reserved, quiet person. I’ve always heard growing up that when I was younger, I never really did cause much trouble, and I was an easy child to care for. In my home environment, I tend to keep to myself.
However, at school (high school and college); around my friends I am a completely different person. I’m outgoing; I’ll usually try anything within reason (except most new foods). I like to have fun and sometimes be loud. Most of my friends have told me that I’m a funny person and they enjoy being around me because there is never a dull moment. With my close friends I do share my feelings and some problems, but for the most part I still keep major stuff to myself. I like to think of myself as an over caring person; I will keep my problems inside but I’m more than willing to help a friend at anytime should they need me because I want to be the person that people can depend on and I do not want to bother others with my own problems.
Even though the previous community was at school, I think to me that is because school is away from home (over an hour away) and my family is not here or even constantly in contact with me. So, the classroom would be a third community that I am a part of. This is another space where I am standoffish and to myself. I do not really know anyone in my classes and I am uncomfortable speaking in class. It’s not really enough time for me to get to know these people either like the time I had in high school to get to know my friends. -jd
I never thought of how being part of a certain community makes you act a different way than you would in another community, but you’re certainly right. Are these communities close-knit or impersonal? Do you think the size of the community matters? I know many people who while living with their family felt it was very impersonal, even though there were only three other people, simply due to lack of interest or trust in one another. It seems like a big community is makes it easier for you to be yourself, which does not really coincide with what Bell is saying – so you bring up a very good point! This also makes me think about classrooms, and I must agree with you and Bell in that they are thrown together almost at random, and never for a long enough time to get to know other people personally. -JoEllen-
I agree with your point about how a person acts differently in class, especially a college level course, because there isn’t enough time to really get comfortable with your classmates unless you have other connections with them as well or run into outside of class. I agree with your statement where a person acts a certain way in front of their family and then are able to let loose and be more themselves when around their close friends and people more their age. Also, another point to think about is a person tends to act similar to the people they are around. For instance, if you friends are loud then you will become a little louder, and if your friends are more chill and reserved, you may become a little quieter as well. Just a tiny thought to ponder.
Constantina
Also, I wanted to mention that a community that I am not a part of is a minority group. I am from a white middle class family. I have no idea what it is like to be cruelly discriminated against because of my background. I can understand that it may be difficult or hurtful to be a part of this type of community. But I do not think I will ever be able to fully relate to those people although we may share other things in common that can connect us to one another so that we are able to communicate. -jd

